STUMPP, Part II, RL 55, p. 661 - Bergdorf census of 1816 .
"Bender, Maria 55, her children Michael 16, Elisabetha 12, George 31, his wife Margaretha 27, their daughter Elisabetha Margaretha 2 1/2, Valentine, 1812, 25, is with the family at Number 22 removed, his wife Maria, their children Anna Maria, 1812, died, Balthasar Ludwig and Philipp, also Martin, 1812, 16, emigrated to Kassel, Anna Maria Dorothea, 1814 died, Katharina, emigrated to Kassel.

All agree that this is our Bender family. Maria is a widow, so her husband died prior to 1816.
The question becomes one of identifying the husband.

KASTENS, Dennis A., Nothweiler Familes 1500-1850, 2001 (30 Aug 2007)
Nothweiler, Rheinland-Pfaltz, Germany church records confirm place of origin.

Bender (B-6), p. 23
"Johann Georg Bender b. 30 May 1750 Langensoultzbach + by 1816 Nothweiler.
Married Maria Appolonia Neuhart 13 Oct 1778 Lembach."

Neuhart (N-25), p. 93
"Maria Appolonia b. late 1759
Married 13 Oct 1778 Lembach Johann Georg Bender."
Listed as second child of Georg Jakob Neuhart / Anna Maria Kindelberger.